I am the widowed mother of the groom and there will be a formal wedding in late July. The bride has picked pool (an aqua color) as a main color of the wedding. The last gift my husband gave to me was a pair of blue topaz and pearl earrings. The blue topaz is a near prefect match to the pool color.
I would like to offer to let the bride wear the earrings for the wedding, but not to to keep. (Something old, something borrowed, something blue.) I am offering to let my son use his father's pocket watch for the day of the wedding. His older brother had used the watch in his casual wedding.
Would it be proper etiquette to offer to lend the earrings and the watch to the bride and groom or should I just keep quiet? I'm sure my son would like to use the watch. I would not be offended if the bride said no to the earrings but would not want to put her in a awkward position.
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How sweet.
Why don't you ask your son if he could get an idea of how his bride might respond. Maybe she'd be more likely to tell him that she'd prefer not to use the earrings. Then, if he thinks it's a good idea you can feel more comfortable about asking. I hope she agrees though.
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Thank you for your help.
I have taken the Queen's advice and talked to my son. He likes the idea of the bride having a chance to wear something from our side of the family. He is not sure of her answer but would like me to ask her. I'll talk to her privately after dinner today.
On a very positive note, my son is so happy I have offered the watch to him. (He was hoping I would offer.) My husband had used the watch in our wedding. It turns out he is getting pocket watches for all of his groomsmen. Great minds think alike, especially in this family
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As a widow myself, I understand how special these items can be. I hope to do the same for my children when/if they decide to marry. I have a watch which belonged to my children's father. I plan to give as a gift to my son either on his wedding day or graduation.
Hopefullly your son will discuss the importance of the jewelry and his bride will accept. But, if she doesn't try not to be insulted. The wedding jewelry is a very personal choice. If she hasn't lost someone close to her she may not be able to understand the sentiment.
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