A friend asked me to be in her wedding. We've been friends a long time so naturally I agreed, no questions asked. She showed me the dresses she is planning for her bridesmaids. Although they are not what I would have ever chosen for myself, Ok, I thought-- they are something you could wear again to church or some occasion (with removal of the giant flower at the waist, mind you.) Next she showed me the shoes. Whatever, I thought--it is your day, you want us all to match. Lastly came the jewelry. There is no nice way around it. The stuff if HIDEOUS. She simply took black bobby pins and messily glued transluscent butterfly and flower beads (beads with holes that are suppose to be strewn to something) to them. The glue is showing and it looks like something a second grader did at 4H camp. I honestly thought she was joking at first. I know its her day and its not all about the bridesmaids at all but I will feel ridiculous if people at the wedding assume the stuff sticking to my head is something I picked out. Honesty would be the best policy but she, her entire life, has been a person you can't approach with a difference of opinion, especially if its something that she created. I've even considered losing them at the wedding and pretending they'd fallen out without me knowing. Is is wrong to refuse to wear something even though its the brides day? I think she is being unreasonable by asking us to wear this disgusting stuff. While I can appreciate the effort to save us money, if we are paying for the dresses, we might as well buy some inexpensive attractive jewelry from a department store. Should I contact the other bridesmaids and ask them if they want to approach her as a group if they feel the same way?
(These are only a few of the things about the wedding that will be ultra tacky. I failed to mention the silk flower bouquets and the Lord of the Rings elvin (like an elf) style head dress she is planning on wearing. I'm afraid I'm going to be extremely embarrased during this whole ordeal.)
The only thing you can do is try to talk to her. Approaching the other bridesmaids may backfire on you if they have similar taste to the brides. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
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