Its two weeks to my wedding. My fiance's brother is his best man and he lives out of state. He was recently informed that his uncle was wondering if there was going to be a bachelor party (I had no thoughts on the matter up until this point). His brother, who obviously can't throw him one, told him that his uncle was wondering about a party. To sum up, his uncle made a joke by offering to get my fiances ex-girlfriend to provide the entertainment and sent a picture of her to his e-mail. I find the joke rude, disrespectful and distasteful. My fiance, on the other hand, shrugs it off. Am I wrong to be offended and do I stay out of it and let him handle it or do I tell his uncle how I feel?
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First, anyone can host the bachelor party as long as they are attending the wedding. All guests pay their own way to this event.
Now, you are entitled to be hurt and offended by your fiance's Uncle's "joke", but, this remark was not made to you nor was the email sent to you so you should not be addressing it. In fact, I'm wondering how, and why, you found out about this. Ask your fiance not to share these sorts of family jokes with you since they are offensive in your eyes. He knows his Uncle and he probably shrugs it off as, oh, that's just crazy Uncle Joe. He's sure it's not going to happen so he's not bothered by it. Don't make an issue of it. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. This is between them. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Sep 21, 2007, 1:54 PM
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Thank you for your thoughts.
I found out about this because I was standing there when he read the e-mail out loud and opened the picture.
Family joking about bachelor party entertainment
