The bachelorette party for our group is already over. We all had fun. Nine of us came in from different areas for a fun last minute weekend. My question is that the girl that somewhat organized the party called me after the party and said she had forgotten to collect funds to pay for the bachelorette's hotel room, and that we all needed to pitch in! Is this appropriate? We pitched in all night with a gift for the bride-to-be, dinner and drinks. I felt insulted when she asked me, it took me by surprise. This was not discussed before the event. My feeling is not the dollar amount but the principal. Am I missing something here?
The bride shouldn't incur any costs for this. So, typically the guests share in all of the costs for the event and pay for her. This is the only time guests pay for the party. The organizer should have mentioned all of this beforehand. She handled it badly.
It is too bad that you invested in a gift that night though. This is not a gift giving situation.
It would appear that the organizer just didn't know the etiquette involved here. This is an optional party that you could have avoided if you didn't want to incur these costs.
But, you are expected to help pay for the bachelorette's hotel room since you agreed to attend.
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