Just had my bachelorette party last weekend. During the weekend, I politely refused to do a couple things I just thought were too humiliating for me. The guests thought I was kidding, and tried several times to push me into it. Then, eventually, it was dropped. It was uncomfortable the rest of the night -- I felt like everyone was disappointed in my "performance" as a bachelorette. Now it feels like the elephant in the room. I asked several times to find out what the plans were ahead of time, fearing I would not be up for them, but everyone laughed and said it was a surprise. I felt like no one listened, and that we could have avoided this. I am unsure how to approach the hostess, or if I should, on this matter... I think she may feel unappreciated for her work putting this together.
Honesty is (almost) always the best policy. If you're feeling uncomfortable go to the hostess and let her know how you feel. Tell her exactly as you've told us.
For all future bachelorette planners reading this post - please keep the bride's personality in mind when planning. After all, it is a party to honor her. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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