My high school friends Laura and Jenna both recently got engaged and are both planning weddings in July 2006 approximately 2 weeks apart from each other. I was asked to be a bridesmaid in both weddings. So that means 2 dresses, accessories, shoes, 2 bridal showers to plan and contribute to, 2 shower gifts, 2 weddings gifts, the bachelorette party and spending money at both weddings.Although it is going to be a large expense being in two weddings so close together I accepted both invitations because I am friends with them both. With the wedding so close together we discussed a joint bachelorette party since the two brides are friends and they were agreeable. I recently got an email from the Maid of Honor for my friend Laura's wedding asking my availability in May. She informed me that they were looking into planning a long weekend away to possibly Florida or "someplace warm" (we live in Massachusetts) for the bachelorette party. I emailed her back that I was concerned about the cost, especially considering that I am in both weddings and since they are SO close together. I am also one of the only ones who is not living at home with their parents so money is tighter for me. I stated that it was not going to be financially feasible for me to do this sort of a weekend. I suggested some more reasonable ideas. The MOH stated that she would talk about it with Laura and the others in the bridal party and get back to me. Well, she did get back to me only to inform me that they still were going to plan on going away. Then, I got an email from the other bride Jenna stating that she would not be offended if I dropped out of her wedding party because her bridal party was big enough and she realizes that it can get expensive with both weddings so close together. Now I feel like I am in an awkward position and I don't know what to do. I feel hurt because I was never included on the bachelorette party planning. I feel that none of my concerns are being considered. I feel that it is a lot to expect of the bridal party to go away for a weekend in such this manner especially since the brides planned their weddings so close together. I just don't know what to do. I feel like dropping out of both weddings now. Am I just over reacting? HELP!
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Re: [Stephie_Lee79] Bachlorette Party Expenses
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Dear Stretched,
Actually, quite a few parties are similar to this. But, everyone should be in agreement if they are to share the cost. Since you made it clear that you can't afford this extravagance, it appears to me that the others just assume that you cannot attend. This is not a negative. This is just something the majority wants to do. There is nothing wrong with you sitting this one out or the majority wanting to go ahead with a party they want to plan.
As for your friend giving you a way out of her wedding, this is also not a negative. It appears as if she realizes how expensive all of this is for you and wants to help you.
Bachlorette Party Expenses
