I recently had my bachelorette party and one bridesmaid was out of control. She turned it into her party by getting her hair and makeup professionally done, bossing around my friends, walking in on me (the bride) in the restroom because she HAD to start curling her hair and meanwhile I wasn't even close to being ready, and thats just a few things that rubbed me the wrong way. To make this short, she got very intoxicated, didn't hang around me at all the whole evening, got very out of control as far as yelling and pushing a hotel door shut on body which made me just burst into tears that she was doing this stuff to me. My problem isn't so much what she did because I can chalk it all up to a drunk night but she didn't call me the next day when she heard how upset I was, she drove home drunk that night and sent me nasty text messages and a day later when I tried to talk to her she walked away not wanting to solve the problem because she felt that the other girls, my family, as well as myself didn't pay enough attention to her during this party.
A week later she apologized for yelling at me but stands her ground that I should have made sure she was always with me. To me our friendship isn't and will never be the same. I don't even want her to stand up anymore and I can't only imagine what will happen at the reh. dinner as well as the wedding. I feel that I can only do this once and I have a right for once in my life to actually make it about me which I NEVER do. What do I do?
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Re: [bella2b] Badly behaved bridemaid at bachelorette party
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Dear Bella,
From what you say here, it sounds as if she may have a drinking problem--besides other problems as well. She has shown that she could become out of control. So, it is your choice what you do from here. It would not be inappropriate to ask her to step down, because as a bride, you are also host to your wedding guests. Their comfort and safety is an issue here.
Badly behaved bridemaid at bachelorette party
