My wife and I have been asked to be in a wedding. The bride and MOH have decided to have a combined bachelor / bachelorette party. Because of the number of people in the wedding party, they (bride/moh) have decided that they will be renting TWO "party busses" for everyone's transportation for the evening. As most know, these busses can easily run $1000-$1500 each for the evening. It is being suggested that everyone in the wedding party pitch in to pay for these busses even though it was no one else's idea and most are not interested. The fact that both my wife and I are in the wedding, I am essentially paying double, upwards of $300 just for transportation for the night. Question. Is this acceptable? Am I wrong for refusing to pay for this especially since it is expected rather than being asked? If everyone else pitches in, am I obligated to also? Some say its no big deal and we should pitch in, but I absolutely disagree with the scenerio. Please help, I need to check my sanity.
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Re: Combined Bachelor / Ette Party - Who Pays?
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All prewedding parties are all optional. All attendants must agree to the planning and hosting of the shower and bachelor/ette parties, which includes the budget, before they are hosted. The couple should never be involved in the planning of either of these parties. Two very good reasons are that the shower could be a gift giving event and the guests and attendants are expected to pay the costs of the bachelor/ette.
In my opinion, this party is over the top and not respectful of the bridal party who are expected to pick up the tab. If the bride and her MOH don't agree and can't see the problem, send them here or to any etiquette book.
Combined Bachelor / Ette Party - Who Pays?
