One of my bridesmaids ('Jenn') is my future sister-in-law, who has a 2 yr old. She lives in a different state than I.
I decided to fly to Las Vegas to have my bachelorette party (I'm even paying my own way) . I just found out that my bridesmaid's parents (my future in-laws) are also flying out there so that they can baby-sit the child during the time Jenn is with us and so that she can return at night to sleep with the child.
I'm afraid of running into my future in-laws on this "girl's-only" weekend, and I'm also thinking that it's going to hinder the weekend by having Jenn going back and forth. My honest opinion is that this is a "girl's only" weekend, and a choice should've been made here - either come to the bachelorette party alone, or stay home with the child. Perhaps I'm being selffish (and not understanding motherhood), but it frustrates me that these plans were made without my thoughts in mind. They think they're doing me a favor. I would completely understand any one of my friends not attending due to having the responsibilites of a mother. I also feel that because I decided to have my party in Vegas, that I've inadvertantly 'made' my future in-laws take the time and money to fly and stay in Vegas, too.
Should I just be biting my lip (real hard) and just be thankful she's coming?
expertplanner
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Feb 8, 2006, 3:08 PM
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It doesn't sound like your in-laws will be crashing your party. They will be there for the mother of the 2 yr old. It also sounds like your friend is trying to make the sacrifice to be at your party but also to maintain her responsibility as a mother. A mother doesn't get a break from being a mother. Your friend obviously loves her child and wants to minimize any disruption in his or her life (being away, letting the child sleep alone, etc.), while still keeping her commitment to actively participating in your wedding festivities.
Don't stress over this. She really does have your interest in mind.
Cheers! Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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Feb 8, 2006, 3:14 PM
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This may not be exactly what you pictured but I agree with Rhonda, your friend is trying to please everyone. Although - it would have been nice if she asked how you felt about it. But, since we cannot control what others do, why not have some control over the situation by making choices for yourself which will help to make you feel more comfortable. Perhaps you could ask your friend to stay at a different hotel. ?
I doubt that you'll run into your inlaws too often since they will be caring for a yound child and children cannot go into the casinos and such. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
sodagirl
Feb 8, 2006, 3:44 PM
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Thank you both for the reply. I know their intentions are nothing but good and I should be thankful that I am marrying into such a wonderful family who are always trying to accomodate others. I just know if I were in the situation, my parents wouldn't come out to babysit, nor would I even want to trouble them and let them do that.
I'll try not to stress over it and just let things happen (I have yet to find out where they are staying ;Z).
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