My husband and I babysat the bride's dog while she went on her bach. party. When calling to ask what time to bring the dog home, she exclaimed upon the wonderful time they had all had and she was so glad that her mom had had such a good time. They went to Gatlinburg, but I don't know what was planned and was used to the idea that mothers usually aren't invited.
My instant reaction was to be hurt that I wasn't invited. I've seen answers where someone says "don't be hurt" - but isn't it basically natural to feel when told of any party that you weren't invited to after the fact. If she hadn't mentioned her mom, I might never have known.
Should I discuss my feelings with her?
I don't think she is a person who is not up on etiquette. Also we have paid for 1/2 the wedding, not that that gets me an invite. I'm just basically bewildered about the whole thing and don't want to make my son the go between if I do decide to discuss it with her.
Thanks.
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
May 1, 2007, 10:29 AM
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Re: [vanden] MOB but not MOG invited to bachelorette party
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Dear Vanden,
Of course, you could speak to her about your feeling as your feelings are valid and you want to have a good, open relationship with her. But, the damage has been done. And, I agree with you. I don't think she knows that what she did could have hurt anyone. So, if you do speak to her, she may consider it a reprimand or an accusation, as most of us really don't like to be told that we did anything wrong.
It is entirely your decision to speak to her. If you do, please tread lightly.
And, you are correct. Mothers are not typically invited to these.
MOB but not MOG invited to bachelorette party
