I am one of four bridesmaids (there is no maid of honor) in my friend’s wedding and I am the only one from out-of-town. I recently received an email from a friend of the bride asking me to pitch-in (a specific amount was not included) for part of the bacherlorette party. The party will be held when I am in town. Unfortunately, the planning has been done without my input and a limo was decided on as transportation – which will be several hundred dollars. I simple cannot afford to contribute very much to the cost of the limo as I have already spent a significant amount of money on transportation, the dress, up-does, gifts, etc. Should I decline the invite to the party or participate and only contribute what I can (even if it is a very small amount)??
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Jul 18, 2007, 3:30 PM
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Re: [Jenny525] Out-of-town bridesmaid and bacherlorette party
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Dear Jenny,
Although, the bachelorette party is one where all of the guests (which includes all attendants) pay for their costs and the bride's, since you were not part of the group who planned the event, you should not be obligated to pay for any of it. But, it is expected that you would contribute and attend. So, please make sure they realize that you can not afford to contribute. It wouldn't be appropriate to attend and not pay your way and a portion of the bride's. The others would have to pay for you and the bride and that isn't fair to them.
Out-of-town bridesmaid and bacherlorette party
