Hello! I'm MOH and sole attendant for my sister's destination wedding. I'm throwing her a bachelorette wknd. getaway in Palm Springs, CA which is about an hour and a 1/2 drive for most of the guests invited. I used an evite for the invitation and about 6 have so far rsvp'd yes, and 6-8 more girls MAY also attend (not including the bride and myself!) My sister invited our Mom and Aunt, and they will also come, in fact, because of this we have arranged to have a second 2 bedroom condo since the amount of people is increasing! (I honestly underestimated the amount of guests being able to make it) This is confusing, sorry.... the first condo is "free" as my friend is graciously donating it and the second condo is $370. Ok, I did not ask for a monetary amount to contribute on the evite - I just asked for people to bring snacks and alchoholic beverages, and the evite had a nice set up for that. I also mentioned on the evite that we'd be going out to dinner one night (assuption is they'd pay their own) and I wrote that I'd be making breakfast Sunday morning for everyone. (I'll pay for that!)
Now, many people have asked how much they should chip in, my sister and mom also think people should help out, and I shouldn't be responsible for the entire lodging bill. (my mom has offered to pay half of the condo!hmmm?) I just feel weird, since I didn't ask on the evite. They think I should ask for $20 a person (for a 2 night stay). Evite has a great setup to send messages to the guests.... can I go back and ask or suggest nicely that $20 would be appreciated? Or should I just mention it individually?
Thanks for your help!
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Re: [jenaerw] Who pays for Bachelorette Weekend
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Dear Jenaerw,
Usually guests know that they are to contribute for a bacholorette party. But, you didn't mention when you invited guests. So, it wouldn't be polite to mention it now. If they ask, you could let them know that everyone is chipping in X amount.
Your sister shouldn't invite anyone or be a part of the planning of this party since it is in her honor.
Who pays for Bachelorette Weekend
