I know that the MOB and the MOG are generally not invited to the bacheorette party, so in taking on the guest list from the bride, I did tell her that. She said she would still like them both to be invited but it was up to the the bridesmaids to decides if it was appropriate. So I had a talk with the other brides maids and it was decided that it was not appropriate to invite them. We sent out evites to the guest list (the party was to be a surprise to the bride). Then we got a email from one of the invitees, saying that the MOB did not get the evite and wanted to know where her's was. One of the other bridesmaids called the bride to let her know what was going on. The bride then turned bridezilla and was furious that we did not invite them. The bride said that it's her party and she should get to invite whom ever she wants. Which is what we did with the exception to the moms. The bridesmaid reminded her that the MOB and the MOG are generally not invited, but the bride wanted us to change the plans of the party. Which we will not do. She also told the bride that many of the guests may not feel comfortable with the moms coming to party and may not have as much fun. The brides says she's over it, and still hopes to have fun, but we're still getting emails from the bride that seem very condescending and we're not sure how to go forward with the party now. The party is now just two and a half weeks away!
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Re: bachelorette party with MOB and MOG
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Dear Carriem,
You could contact her and inform her that you have been doing a lot of reading about the etiquette involved and found that this is the only party in which the guests pay for the party and equally contribute her costs. So, we would want to be fair to the guests and therefore she does not have any say in the planning. Of course a good MOH does consider the bride's preferences when planning, but that is where the bride's influences stop. Furthermore, if she cannot accept this or she still feels that you should host the party as she sees fit, all of you could back out of the party now.
bachelorette party with MOB and MOG
