There are 5 maids (I am MOH) and the wedding is in January. Since two of the maids are out of state I have planned the shower and bachelorette already to make sure everyone can agree on dates. They have all helped with the planning and everyone is excited except one maid (I'll call her Jane). Jane has declared that the bachlorette party is not good enough and wants everyone to to a weekend in Vegas - none of us can afford it. I fought back on the issue, telling her that we can't afford it and she says the Bride is telling her what she wants because she doesn't think I'll do a good job. I've known the Bride since kindergarten and she is absolutely not doing that. First question - Should I talk to the Bride about this?
I then told Jane that the rest of the maids and I are going to go ahead with our plans and she is welcome to plan something else with the Bride. She responded that she will plan the real bachelorette party with the maids, and her friends and that I will not be invited. She then asked me never to contact her again and told me that if I have something she needs to know I should tell one of the other maids to tell her. I have respected her by not contacting her but I do not think its appropriate to send messages back and forth. I think it's her decision to exclude herself. Second question - should I continue with my plans with the bachelorette party? if so, should I invite Jane? if not, should I let the Bride know that I was not invited to Vegas, or tell her that I simply cannot afford it?
I think she will wonder why the MOH isn't there and she knows I have been excited about planning this.
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Sep 13, 2007, 5:26 PM
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Re: [brdlprtyblus] two bachelorette parties?
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Dear Brdlprtyblus,
This is not appropriate. It isn't fair to the guests to expect them to pay for two bachelorette parties. So, at this point it is best to speak to the bride.
If you do plan the party and she is still an attendant, you would be inviting her.
two bachelorette parties?
