I am in my friends wedding in this summer. All the bridesmaids recently attended a bridal brunch to go over some of the specifics in terms of batcherlorette and shower etc. I was informed that the bride wants to go out of town for the weekend for her batchelorette, this was the first I had heard of it. This is easily going to be a $200.00 weekend, partly because I can't take the Friday before off to go up with the rest of the girls. I will be driving myself up there. This is of course on top of dress, shoes etc. This is a large cost in my opinion to ask of people and I think if this was the case then then the bride or whomever is planning it should have called all the girls to ask if they could afford to do this for her before bringing it up at a group thing. I didn't want to stand up in front of everyone and complain. I don't want to be a cheap bridesmaid either, Ijust don't think I can afford that. Am I wrong in feeling this way?
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Feb 6, 2006, 6:04 PM
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Dear Reasonable,
No you are not wrong to feel this way.
All of these parties are optional and the planning should be done with all the hosts in agreement. If you feel that this costs too much, say so. You have a legitimate concern. The bride can say what she wants, but the guests have to pay. So, if they insist on doing this, you have every right not to attend or pay.
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Thank You for your response. I wanted to make sure I wasn't being a rude or cheap bridesmaid. Thanks!
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Feb 6, 2006, 6:31 PM
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You definitely are not rude. No worries. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Feb 6, 2006, 6:39 PM
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I don't think you're being rude by letting the others know that you had not expected such a cost for the bachelorette party and that it doesn't fit into your budget.
But - for all bridesmaids reading this post you should consider these costs when agreeing to be a part of the bridal party. There are usually costs involved and $200 for the type of party you have described isn't really a huge price tag. I suppose the term "high price" is in the eyes of the person holding the wallet. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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