who pays for bachelorette if there's no bridal party?
Hi ladies,
Basically, my fiance and i getting married in a private ceremony in hawaii (just the 2 of us). We were planning a large reception upon our return but had to cancel everything because we simply couldn't afford it. All our friends are anxious to celebrate with us though and my best friend has offered to host a bachelorette party before i leave. I know the bridal party usually pays but i have none. So if my best friend is hosting, but can't afford to cover all the costs alone, how should she go about asking for contributions? Should she just write how much each person should pay on the invitation? That seems a little tacky. But bear in mind that she has not met a number of my friends from work so a phone call miight be awkward. We just don't want to ruin the fun atmosphere by asking for too much $ or asking the wrong way. I'd sooner pay everything myself. It is a celebration after all.
I'd appreciate any advice you have to give. Thanks!
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May 28, 2007, 3:02 PM
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Re: [m.irurzun] who pays for bachelorette if there's no bridal party?
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Dear M.Irurzun,
Unfortunately, all pre-wedding parties include only those invited to the wedding. Because you do not have any wedding guests, a bachelorette party would be improper.
A bachelorette party is the one party for which the guests pay to attend. Everyone contributes equally, except for the bride. So, if this was a proper party, the cost would be listed on the invitation so the guests could decide whether or not they will attend.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] who pays for bachelorette if there's no bridal party?
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Yes i agree that under normal circumstances a bachelorette party would be improper given that there will be no wedding guests. But in this case, all of my friends have asked me to have one. More like insisted actually...
Thanks for your help!
Etiquette Now
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May 28, 2007, 10:32 PM
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Re: [m.irurzun] who pays for bachelorette if there's no bridal party?
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Well then, just have a party!! Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
who pays for bachelorette if there's no bridal party?
