I'm getting married in August 08. I have 5 bridesmaids, all but one are from out of town. This past August the 4 from out of town came down for a weekend and we went bridesmaid dress shopping. The one that lives in town could not make it but said she would be ok with whatever dress we chose. We found a dress and all ordered (paying in full), but the store didn't put the order through so we could wait for the last bridesmaid. It has now been nearly 2 months and the bridesmaid still hasn't gone in for her measurements. Whenever I email her about this (or any other wedding related stuff) I either don't hear back from her, or I get very short answers. I see her occasionally as we work in the same place and she expresses excitment, but still blows off getting the dress. I don't know what to do. I offered to help with the deposit if it was a $$ issue. I've also told her in an email that if she has changed her mind about something to please let me know (to which she didn't reply and didn't acknowledge when she saw me in person the next day). I don't know how long to keep waiting before giving up and putting the dress order through. I would hate to lose her as a friend, so I don't want to be a bridzilla, but when is enough enough?
Email is not reliable and is not an acceptable form of communication for something this important. Make an effort to speak to this woman in person and ask her point blank if she has changed her mind. If she seems to still be on board then you'll have to give her a deadline for which to make an appointment to have her measurements and deposit taken. Then, going forward, you will probably have to do the same with all other "responsibilities". You won't be a bridezilla if you state the facts in a gentle and polite manner. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Absent Bridesmaid
