After less than a year, how do I say they're no longer maids?
I broke off an engagement within the last year but am days away from being engaged again. I bought back the dresses from the original wedding from the bridesmaids and still have them, though they are now discontinued. While my two ormer maids really defended my decision to break off my last wedding amid a whirlwind of gossip and drama, I haven't seen them in over five months (since we moved away after graduating college) and while I've tried to talk to them many times, I haven't gotten much, if any, response. I have to admit I'm hurt and I don't even think they know how serious I am with my soon to be fiance. They really like him, but have only seen him a few times. Granted, they both are well known for not keeping up with people. If it weren't for the fact that they were going to be my bridesmaids six months ago, I wouldn't think twice about leaving them from the list. But that being the case, I don't know what to say to them. I know it sounds easy to say just don't have them because you don't want to, but I'm not satisfied by just telling them we haven't talked in a while, so sorry. What should I do?
expertplanner
BRIDAL CONSULTANT
Oct 31, 2006, 8:36 AM
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Re: [mrs2b] After less than a year, how do I say they're no longer maids?
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You might be putting the 'cart before the horse', so to speak, on this issue. It sounds like perhaps you are making assumptions about why your friends are not communicating without a real reason. Life has a way of happening and taking us on uncharted journeys, especially after graduation. So, it could be simply your friends are experiencing different scenarios that are requiring much more of their time.
I live right next door to my best friend and I may not see or speak to her for weeks at a time. Why? Because life happens to both of us and we don't get a chance to speak. Add some distance to that and it is easy to go long periods of time without speaking and not feeling that time has lapsed so significantly.
Also, you aren't engaged yet. And, by your own admission, you haven't really spoken. How would they know how serious you are? It seems as though you are looking negatively upon your friends for for something they haven't done yet.
So, what I recommend is that you take a long look at whether these ladies are really the ones you want standing up next to you whenever you do get married. If after that internal reflection the answer is that they are, then when you get engaged, call them. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
After less than a year, how do I say they're no longer maids?
