Are bridesmaids expepected to give a shower and wedding gift?
I am a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding and am wondering what kind of gifts I am expected to give. We, the bridesmaids, are already paying for a very large shower; one hundred guests. We are all going together to buy a gift for the shower. Do I need to buy a separate gift for the wedding. Besides paying for part of the shower, and bachlorette party, I am also doing the bride's and bridal party's hair and makeup, because I am in the business. So, after all that do you think I need to buy a separate gift for the wedding?
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Re: [Bridesmaidwoes] Are bridesmaids expepected to give a shower and wedding gift?
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Dear Bridesmaidwoes,
I sincerely wish you had come here before planning this very inappropriate shower. This is a mini-reception and completely improper. More than likely it would appear as a plea for the most gifts possible--a greed fest. Why would anyone want that many people invited to a shower unless they wanted 100 extra wedding gifts?
The shower is an optional event that you would have had to agreed to host and to pay for. So, this really isn't in the equation--apparently you agreed. And, yes all of you are expected to give one shower and one wedding gift. But, this doesn't have to be big or expensive and could be a group gift or handmade.
You could have told the bride that the hair and makeup is her gift if you had offered it in that manner at the beginning. If you didn't, then it wouldn't be accepted as your gift. It is unfortunate.
Are bridesmaids expepected to give a shower and wedding gift?
