I have been engaged for 7 months now and the wedding isn't for another 4. My MOH lives out of town and whenever I bring up anything that has to do with the wedding (i.e. Bachelorette Party) I get the answer from her of "I don't have money, I'm so broke and I have all these other trips planned I need to save for too." She is not good with saving money or planning things in advance. She is a spur of the moment girl and I knew this when I asked her to be my MOH. I am a planner and I need someone for my MOH who can help me plan and stay on track. She is not that person.
I have talked to her about this and told her that I am not happy with her level of commitment to me as a friend, the wedding and being my MOH. I don't want to sound like a Bridezilla, but I was really counting on her being there 100% for my big day. Now I feel like this is a chore for her. I haven't spoken to her for 1 month now...leaving it up to her to call due to her busy schedule and still no call. I am worried about our friendship and know that it probably won't continue after the wedding.
Knowing that, would it be rude to ask her to step down as my MOH and let her know that we have grown apart as friends and I need someone there on my say who is committed?
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It really wouldn't be nice to ask her not to participate, especially if she has purchased a dress and planned on being there. Just let her muddle along on her own and rely on your other attendants, friends and family to help out. Call her when her dress is in and when she needs to be at fittings or rehearsal but, aside from that I would just leave it alone. There really shouldn't be much left that you would need to be concerned with which would include her having to pay for anything. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Apr 6, 2007, 1:09 PM
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Thank you.
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Apr 6, 2007, 4:44 PM
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I completely agree. Plus, the prewedding parties, such as the bachelorette, are optional. So, it really isn't her 'duty' to plan it. It is just a nice gesture and is traditional. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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