Asking maid of honeor and bridesmaids to cover tattos and dye hair for wedding
My daughter is getting married in September. She has asked her cousins to be attendants in her formal/traditional wedding. Her cousin who is to be Matron of Honor has had purple streaked hair for the last 5 years and feels it is a permanent part of her appearance. She and her sister, also a bridesmaid, have tattoos.
My daughter called her Matron of Honor and requested that she have her hair dyed (even temporarily) to have her appearance look more natural for the wedding. Her cousin was very offended and hurt at this request as she feels her hair helps define "who" she is. My daughter also plans to ask all attendants to cover their tattoos with make-up for the ceremony. She has offered to pay for the dye job and the make-up. She feels justified in asking for these changes because she feels that these physical attributes will distract guests attention from the bride.
I feel that she asked her cousins to be in the wedding party knowing their appearance. She shouldn't demand that they change their looks for the ceremony at this point.
My daughter is so focused on this disagreement that she intends to ask her Matron of Honor to step down from the wedding party if she refuses her request. This has the potential to cause a major issue in the family. What is the proper etiquette?
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Re: [aquarianlady] Asking maid of honeor and bridesmaids to cover tattos and dye hair for wedding
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Dear Aquarianlady,
You are correct. She knew about the hair and the tatoos when she asked them. So, it is unfair and hurtful to ask them to change their appearance at this point.
It would be much different if the young ladies altered their appearance after she had asked. But, this is not the case here.
Asking maid of honeor and bridesmaids to cover tattos and dye hair for wedding
