I am a bridesmaid and the MOH rec'd an email from the bride that was also sent to the BM. She said that it is the responsibility of the wedding party to clean the church before going to the reception, 25 mins away. So in our gowns and tuxedos, we're supposed to clean the church and gather up all of the flowers, rented items, aisle runners, etc store them somewhere and return them the following Tuesday. I've been in more weddings than I can count, more than a dozen, and never have I ever heard of this. Any advice on how to approach the bride about it?
expertplanner
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Aug 1, 2007, 8:07 PM
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Yes. This is a good time for someone to suggest to the Bride that she needs to consider hiring a wedding coordinator for the day, who could facilitate the cleaning up. Or, simply hire someone to come in and clean up behind the wedding.
This is not the type of task that a formally, fully dressed wedding party member(s) should be expected to perform. Not to mention, even if you all agreed, doing so could siginficantly hold up you getting to the reception, dirty up your attire, etc.
She needs to reconsider mandating such a responsibility to the wedding party. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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Aug 1, 2007, 8:12 PM
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I agree with Rhonda. This is not the responsibility of any wedding guests and, essentially, bridal party members are guests. This is no way to treat a guest. Have her ask the church if they have a crew she can hire to clean up. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
smuss73
Aug 2, 2007, 8:53 AM
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Thank you so much! Any advice on who should talk to her about it? And how they should phrase it?
Etiquette Now
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Aug 2, 2007, 10:18 AM
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I agree completely.
Any or all of you could speak to her and be very honest. The message is that it isn't the responsibility of the bridal party to clean the church and you should be treated with more respect. Those in formal wear shouldn't be expected to be the cleaning crew. Although, it is part of the groomsmen's responsibility to care for the aisle runners. They lay them out and roll them back up. They aren't responsible to return them though. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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