A good friend of mine is getting married in dec. My Best friend is maid of honor, 2 close friends and I are bridesmaids along with 2 of the grooms sisters. (Whom the 4 of us don't know). The bride decided that she wants a jack and jill along with a bridal shower. She says that one of her fiance's sisters is having both, so she wants both too. The maid of honor and I have been trying to figure out if that is a reasonable thing to do. Throw them both and expect people to come to both? Plus a few of the bridesmaids don't have a lot of money to work with. We all want the best for her. We asked her to pick one or the other. We all feel the same as in wanting to throw her something great and fun, But for some reason she thinks were nuts for not wanting to give her both. Are we wrong about this? Is this something common to do? We're really in a jam here. Plus the same sister that is having both is also trying to plan the jack and jill already and the maid of honor wasn't even consulted about it. It was more just her flat out telling her "Hey, We're going to have a halloween jack and jill in Oct." The maid of honor is intimated by her so she didn't say anything. I don't feel that is right, I thought it was the made of honor's job to plan these things. I'm starting to get nervous that this is going to get ugly for all of us involved
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edited by TWQadmin on Feb 6, 2008, 9:16 PM)
All showers are optional events, so, the bride can want whatever she wants but will have to be happy with any shower given by her very generous friends. She is not entitled to get even one shower, nevermind asking for more than one. Very presumptuous!
If her sister-in-law to be wants to host a jack and jill shower, let her. Of course, none of you are expected to help out with the planning or finances, unless you want to, that is. If the bridal party wants to host their own shower, great. All of you should get together and decide what you can afford and what type of shower you'll host. The only reason a bride should be involved at all is when asked for a suggested guests list (you will let her know how many guests you can accommodate) and if she is available for a particular date.
I hope this helps. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
That helps some but, What if we just wanted to go in on the jack and jill with her soon to be sister and law and not have a Bridal shower. Do you think that makes us look bad?
Since hosting a shower is optional, anything you offer to plan, or help to plan, is generous. Speak with the sister to see if she wants help with her shower. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Bride wants 2 showers
