Bridesmaid(BM) is doing more work than maid of honor
My maid of honor is a childhood friend of mine. I have been aid of honor for both my MOH and bridesmiad at their weddings so it was difficult for me to chose 1 MOH. My MOH hasn't been playing the role very well. My bridesmaid, who lives in another state and has a child, has been helping me the most and has been planning and initiating all the typical duties of the MOH. I was thinking that I would honor my bridesmaid by making her maid of honor as well. Is this appropriate to do at this point? Do I have to communicate this to my 1st MOH or can I just let my bridesmaid know that I am making her MOH as well and just list it on the program? I am not asking my 1st MOH to step down. I just want my bridesmaid to get the recognition that she deserves.
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Etiquette Now
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Feb 15, 2006, 7:40 PM
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Dear Bride,
While it isn't inappropriate, it just may insult your MOH. She may feel as if she isn't in the honored role and forced to share it. If you had chosen two in the beginning, it wouldn't be a problem.
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expertplanner
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Feb 15, 2006, 8:54 PM
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I agree with Rebecca. Also, the person you referred to as your 'Maid of Honor' is actually your Matron of Honor because she is married now. it may be that you need to have a conversation with her. It could be she doesn't know what she is expected to do.
Cheers! Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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If your maid of honor doesn't know that this other woman was selected as bridesmaid then possibly you can call her marton of honor, as Rhonda suggested, and allow things to continue as they are. Then, maybe, the matron of honor could communicate with the maid about their roles. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Bridesmaid(BM) is doing more work than maid of honor
