I am a co-maid of honor for a wedding coming up, however I live extremely far away from the bride and other maid of honor and where the wedding will take place. Although I have been keeping in close ontact with the bride and helping her make as many decisions as possible from far away, it has been a challenge to be very helpful. I also sent several emails to the other maid of honor asking what I could do to help - all of which went unanswered until today. I just recieved a request from her asking for money for some of the shower expenses. She did not outline what these expenses are only, "the costs have really added up and it would be great if you can contribute."
I feel quite upset by this because not only am I spending $1500 of my own money to fly to the wedding as well as staying in a hotel for 5 days. But I have also offered to help organize things in the past. I have no idea what they have spent money on, I was not involved in budgeting or what they need this money for.
What is my responsibility as a maid of honor here? I feel much more put out by the fact that she is asking late and without providing me with any information.
This seems to be a recuring problem problem these days. One that is distressing. If the bridesmaids decide that they would like to host a bridal shower, they all plan together. All would have to be in agreement of costs and planning. As in your case, both of you should have been in agreement for this shower. You should not have been handed a bill. After all, the bridal shower is an optional event, not mandatory.
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