My good friend, who shall remain nameless, has been planning a destination wedding for quite some time. I knew it was going to be in Vegas from the beginning. I am currently out of work staying home with my one year old daughter. Money is tight and I had told her from the beginning I didn't know if I would be able to attend. She said she understood. I told her what was most important was that she was having the wedding that SHE wanted but I would be very sorry if I had to miss the event. The wedding is less than two months away. We are in a position where my husband may be able to send me with some friends and he'll stay home so I won't miss the big day. She tells me yesterday that since I'm pretty sure I'm attending, she would like me in her wedding party now. No advanced notic to plan, I would only have to wear a black dress, she wants me and another friend of ours to start helping out with the shower and favors and such, wants to do a spa day the day of and wants to have her bachlorette party the night before in Vegas??? What part of "money is tight right now" do you think she didn't understand. If I was working OR maybe had some advance notice, I could have saved the money. I'm really stressed about the situation and thinking maybe I should just tell her I won't be able to attend since all these other expenses seemed to pop up. I really can't afford all of this but don't want to miss the wedding. I'm not sure what to do??? Help? I don't want to bring this up to her quite yet, I certainly don't want her to think I'm making this about ME, it's her day.
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Re: [rereed] Bridesmaid for destination wedding
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If you cannot afford to be a part of the wedding party simply let your friend know this. Tell her that you have just enough money to get you to the wedding and that, while you are very honored to be asked, you will have to decline for financial reasons. I would think that she would still want you to attend as a guest. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Bridesmaid for destination wedding
