Bridesmaid may be jealous. How do I discuss this with her?
I recently got engaged in mid-April. We're starting to do the planning and everything, and I'm really excited. However, I have one concern involving my best friend- my maid of honor.
Whenever I bring up my wedding and things I want to do, she goes off on her own tangant on what she's going to do for her wedding. Everything I bring up whether its cakes, or decorations, or venue, she's gotta go off and talk about what she's going to do. I have a hard time getting my own thoughts and ideas out there! If I can, somehow, change the subject back my wedding, she'll change it to relate to her again. The thing is... she's not even engaged!
I understand the excitement of an engagement eventually wears off, and I understand she's most likely excited and that's why she's doing it. However, I feel sad now and that my wedding isn't a big deal... and it is... especially to me and my fiancee. I want to talk to her about this, but I don't want to appear that I am jealous. I am, I suppose, slightly jealous. But I feel that this is my special thing now, and she'll get hers soon.
I'm sure this makes me sound like a whiny baby, but I want to straighten this out before I go crazy inside. You know?
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You should speak to your friend openly and honestly, yet gently. She may have no idea about how she comes off. But do remember that no one will be as excited about your wedding as you and your groom (with the exception of your parents). Although you really cannot expect your friend to be as excited as you are, you can reasonably expect her to listen to ideas about the wedding, as long as you don't make it the focus of every conversation. People will get tired of hearing about it if it's all you ever talk about. During your conversations try discussing your friend's role as maid of honor and what her expectations are so that she understands that it isn't all about you. Because, after all, if it was just about you, there wouldn't be any honored attendants, special seating of the parents, etc. Without your friends and family you wouldn't be who and where you are today. And, you and your fiance would be standing alone in front of a minister reciting your vows to each other without any sort of fanfare or any party afterwards. Not that this woud be bad, it could be beautiful, but if you're planning a wedding and reception then I have to assume you want all of the interaction. Please consider all of this during your planning. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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