A friend of mine from high school asked me to be in her wedding back in February 2007. The wedding was supposed to be fall 2007. When I got engaged, I asked her to be in my wedding, even though I wasn't originally planning to have her. I set my date in January 2008. She never did plan her wedding in 2007 and decided on fall 2008. I never heard from her again until yesterday when she sends me a text message asking what my date is. I tell her and she replies 'awesome'. After asking her why she wants to know she says they found a place for their wedding and the only date available is in my month and she wanted to make sure it's not my date. Turns out it's the weekend before mine! It wouldn't be as big of a deal if I didn't live 8 hours away from her AND didn't have to travel 14 hours to my own wedding location. I'm not sure what to do, but I can't worry about being in her wedding the weekend before my own. But then I think maybe I'm being completely selfish.
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Aug 18, 2008, 1:18 PM
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I don't think you're being selfish at all. Just the distance is excuse enough but there is a responsibility that goes along with being a member of the bridal party. Those responsibilities could become impossible now that the date has been changed. Since you live so far away simply explain your reasons for not being able to be a member of the bridal party and not being able to attend her wedding (if that is the case since you may be having some of your own pre-wedding events one week before your own wedding). You may want to confirm whether or not she will be able to be available for your wedding now too. Something tells me she hasn't thought all of this through. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Aug 18, 2008, 1:58 PM
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I totally agree. Trying to do both will infringe on the enjoyment of your own wedding. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
Bridesmaid planned wedding week before mine
