One of my bridesmaids is also engaged. She has only been seeing the guy a short amount of time and got engaged after me. We have mutual bridesmaids and all along she was saying she wanted a winter wedding (mine is Oct 2007). She changed her mind and went ahead and booked her wedding 2 weeks before mine! She asked me to be her MOH and I said yes before she set her date, now I don't see how that is possible! I have my own wedding to worry about! Not to mention all my final payments will be due and I don't think I will financially be able to do it. Also, I completely don't support her wedding, but wouldn't dare say anything. What should I do? I am so stressed out and also feel terrible for our mutual bridesmaids who are all trying to figure out how to get thought this!
This is unfortunate, but, you will have to explain to your friend that you cannot possibly fulfill your duties as maid of honor since you will be busy planning your own wedding. She should also consider dropping out from her position in your wedding too, unless, of course, she is willing to set a new date. Is it impossible to discuss this with her? I'd try to get your friends together to present a united from on why her date isn't such a hot idea. Be advised, this is my opinion. You should do what feels right for you and your relationship since it is personal. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I completely agree as this will most likely be a hardship on everyone who is involved with both of the weddings. As a united front it may not appear as if this is all about you, which of course it is not. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
I agree and definitely support all of you getting together to talk. It really is going to be a hardship, not to mention logistical nightmare, if the wedding dates (and attendants) stay the same. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Bridesmaid planning wedding 2 wks before mine!!
