Is there any particular way that you should "ask" someone to be a Bridesmaid/ Groomsman? My fiance and I are looking at having 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsman. I thought that we should do something along the lines of sending flowers to the bridesmaids and a bottle of wine to the groomsman with a note asking them to stand with us on our wedding day. My fiance says that this is not necessary. What is the proper thing to do or does it not really matter?
There really is no protocol here, except that this is personal. So, it is best to at least call the person.
Eight is a lot of attendants on each side. The number of attendants should reflect the formality of your event. So, if yours is very formal with very many guests, this is fine.
I would refrain from doing anything as a group since this does not offer the prospective attendant the opportunity to decline without embarassment.
I agree with Rebecca that you should consider approaching each attendant individually. I've seen this done with cute cards and poems sent to their home, especially if they are living at a distance. But, the best way is in person. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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