I am going to be one of 3 bridesmaids at a friend's wedding. The wedding takes place at the end of August. I live overseas and won't be returning to Canada, where the wedding will be held, until 2 weeks before the event. I would like to know what is expected of me from duties to gifts.
I believe that I'm expected to cover a portion of the costs for the shower, etc. If this is true, is it unreasonable to expect the other bridesmaids & the maid of honour to consult me (by phone or e-mail) before making any decisions that involve my money? Thanks in advance!
Your pre-wedding responsibilities as a Bridesmaid is to help pay for the shower and bachelorette party. You will be expected to attend the rehearsal. On the day of the wedding, you may be called upon to run last minute errands. You'll also need to purchase a wedding gift.
Although you are out of town, with the convenience of wireless connectivity, there really isn't any reason why the other Bridesmaids can't contact you to discuss in advance decisions regarding money.
Have fun! Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Actually, you are not responsible for co-hosting the bridal shower. This means that you are not automatically obligated to help pay for it. This is a relatively new trend that is getting out of hand. You may offer to help with the costs, but are not obligated. You should be consulted before any of these decisions are made.
Typically, the bridesmaids do co-host a bachelorette party. But, here again, you should be consulted before plans are firmed up.
You would be obligated to pay for your outfit and travel expenses to the wedding. The bride is supposed to cover your lodging expenses.
Because you are overseas you will not be able to help with the invitations, attend the pre-wedding parties, or help run errands, although these are all bridesmaid's duties. I'm sure the bride knows full well that this is the case.
You will have to ask about where you will pick up your bouquet and when and where to arrive for pictures. More than likely in your case, you will be told.
Beyond this, you will learn about your duties and role during the rehearsal.
Bridesmaid's responsibilities
