I was asked by a good friend to be a hostess at her wedding. I said yes without asking exactly what it would involve (I know, my mistake). Now I am told that the hostesses have to wear the exact same dress and shoes, both of which are really expensive, especially since I also have to pay for travel, hotel and a gift. Most importantly, the shoes are ugly and hurt my feet! So, my question is do I REALLY have to suck it up and just purchase shoes that hurt? Or, can I purchase more comfortable (and affordable) shoes? The dress is long, so you can't see the shoes.
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Weddings by Shayna
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Jun 4, 2008, 1:14 PM
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Re: Can wedding hostess select her own shoes?
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I'm not completely clear on which role she asked you to play. A hostess could be interpreted as similar to a program attendant (in which case matching clothes are not required) or perhaps a co-mistress of ceremonies (also not really something you require someone to where a uniform for). I imagine she means for you to greet guests, help find their dinner seats, help with gifts, etc. But the dress requirement sounds more like she had spillover friends whom she wanted to ask to be bridesmaids. Weird.
In any case, if you agreed already to buy the outfit, then you should really observe her shoe selection, OR, talk to her about it and let her know for comfort reasons they are not an option. I would encourage you to offer at least that courtesy, as opposed to just showing up in the wrong shoes.
It's definitely a good lesson for other future bridal party members. Make sure you are clear about the expectations the couple has for you, including monetary expectations, before you agree to fill a role. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
Can wedding hostess select her own shoes?
