I have asked my oldest and dearest friend Erica, to be my Maid of Honor. The problem is, she lives about 14 hours away. I have another bridesmaid who is helping me a lot with planning and things and who would LOVE to be my MOH. I think I asked Erica because she was the first one who came to mind and I wasn't thinking about the duties or responsibilities of the MOH. What do I do??
Since you really wouldn't want to ask Erika to no longer be your MOH you can:
1. Have both of these ladies be co-maids (or matrons if they are married). Of course you will want to let them both know that you have made this decision and why.
2. Leave things the way they are and hope that Erika can do as much as possible from where she is and the other gal will hopefully keep helping anyway.
It's really just a title anyway. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Thanks for the advice. One will be my Maid of Honor (my unmarried friend here) and the other, my Matron of Honor (she's married). Problem solved! Thanks so much.
Once the asking is done, unless the MOH has done something horrid, you really should not demote her. You should take the time to personally thank the bridesmaid who is helping you since she is closer. You can consider the honors. Perhaps the helpful bridesmaid can say a blessing at the wedding or be the one to give your toast at the reception.
Changing my MOH
