I was wondering if you could please help. A friend of mine has been asked to be a bridesmaid for her stepsister and does not have the time or the money to be one. She has politely thanked her but declined however the stepsister has told her she HAS to do it. Can you please offer any suggestions on how she can politely but firmly say no?
Thank you.
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Hello Alykat -
Your friend should thank her stepsister again for the honor but insist that she simply cannot fulfill the very important duties and responsibilities that comes along with the role of bridesmaid. Let the bride know how excited she is to be attending as a guest and, if she feels comfortable, tell the sister what, if anything, she is willing to do for her during the wedding planning process. Perhaps offer one or two specific services so the step-sister understands that her decision has no reflection on the relationship or care she has for her stepsister.
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I completely agree. To be a bridesmaid, these days, can be expensive and time consuming. And, it can put a strain on a relationship. So, hopefully she can be honest in a very thoughtful manner. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Absolutely - bridal party service is an honor, not an obligation. All she can do is politely but unquestionably decline again, and if necessary, involve her family in her defense. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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