My fiances mom and step dad are becoming very difficult with all the wedding stuff. We went over to their house to fill them in with what is all going on with the wedding so they can be a part and they sat there the whole time with no response or comments. We are wanting to ask them if they can help out with anything for the wedding but it was so tense that we never got to ask them. They haven't yet asked or volunteered to help either. His Step dad wants to rent a mother's dress for my fiances mom so they don't have to pay alot of money for a dress she will probably never wear again. I am confused on do we just not even try and get help from them financially for the Wedding? Do we not even include them in the Wedding stuff because of their attitudes? Do we just let them act and be like this and it will be there loss for being difficult. What should we do?
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Feb 2, 2007, 11:01 AM
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Re: [kristimae] Difficult Soon to be Mother-In-Law
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Dear Kristimae,
From an outside observer, it appears to me that they may have thought you were going to ask them for money and are worried about it. Parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings. So, it is best to wait for them to offer.
Please remember that this is your wedding. You are very excited about it and you should be. But, they have their own lives and there is no way any of us can know what they are going through or what they are thinking. Just the comment that they will be renting a dress makes me think that they may be watching their pennies for a reason.
Just treat them as family and they may be able to open up and appreciate your joy about your wedding one day soon.
Difficult Soon to be Mother-In-Law
