SIL is having 3 showers. I'm hosting one of them as a bridesmaid. (Probably an etiquette error, but it's a bit too late now... I offered when I thought her overseas MOH would be unable to throw the shower.)
Am I expected to attend the other two showers? I was planning on attending one in addition to the one I'm hosting, but the other is at a rather inconvenient time. I could make it work, but it would be difficult. I called to say that I wouldn't be attending and the host sounded shocked and disappointed. Should I rethink my decision?
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Jan 29, 2006, 1:06 PM
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Re: [Spring] Do bridesmaids attend all showers?
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Dear Concerned,
Thank you for wanting to do the right thing. The bride chose well.
It is perfectly fine for you to host because you are in the bridal party. So, no worries.
Attendants are expected to attend all prewedding parties. You are not expected to give for each though. But, in these days of multiple showers I believe we can be a bit more slack with this rule. As long as you are making an effort to be there for the bride and make most of the events, you're fine. After all, you hosted one of them.
Do bridesmaids attend all showers?
