Do we have to ask groomsmen's wives to be bridesmaids?
I'm devastated since two of my fiances best friends decided not to be in the wedding since I didn't ask their wives to be my bridesmaids. I didn't know that I was supposed to include everyone's wives and husbands to be in the wedding. One wife called me today telling me how I made an ill thought decision and that I did a horrible thing not including her. We are friends, but I wanted my best friends in the party. After which, her husband called my fiance and told him that he can't be in the wedding also. I'm very upset cause I look at it as my fault and I screwed up, and I'm not sure what to do right now.
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I'm sorry they are putting you through this. Friends should be trying to please the couple. There is no rule that you must ask the groomsmen's wives to be bridesmaids. It's nice for them if it works out that way, but you have every right to ask those closest to you.
Perhaps your groom can speak with his friends and let them know, in a friendly way, that their wives are misinformed.
Please don't be devastated. Try to move past this and have a wonderful wedding. It is their issue, not really yours. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree. Wow! This is what happens when people make up their own version of what etiquette is supposed to be. It is different for each person that way. It would be comical if it wasn't so hurtful. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Thank you.. I know that I didn't do anything wrong, but I can't feel anything but guilty since if I just included them, then my fiance would have 2 best friends who he grew up with stand next to him at his wedding.
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Look at it this way, if his friends would just act their age instead of like spoiled brats, THEY would be in your wedding and have their best friend to celebrate.
Again, you did nothing wrong and you shouldn't feel badly. Your fiance needs to speak to them and ask them to get real already. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Yeah, I know... funny ;) First of all she started yelling at me because apparently I shouldn't be including anyone who's married in the party at all, and if I wanted her husband in the party she needs to be there also. I explained to her that I couldn't, since if I included her, I would need to include other cousins, and my wedding party would balloon up to 12 people on one side. 10 minutes later her husband called and told my fiance that he can't be in it without his wife.
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I'm so sorry. This is just crazy. Where do these people get their "rules"?
Just move on and try to enjoy what is positive. I hope your fiance can do the same. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Thank you. I'm hoping that everything will sort itself out.
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Those "friends" aren't mature enough to be married IMO. You and your groom may be better off without them. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Do we have to ask groomsmen's wives to be bridesmaids?
