I'm having a small wedding and my fiance and I have decided to have one attended each. Because of this, there was enormous pressure for me to select my 17 year old (only) sister as my MOH. However, she is not MOH material. She doesn't want to help do anything! She won't help pick out dresses...organize anything...cooperate/compromise with styles/make-up/hair/accessories...she even refuses to pay for her own dress! She must think she is doing me some big favor by just agreeing to be in it. I feel kind of stuck because all of my friends are either married with kids or planning their own weddings - much to busy. Besides, if I don't pick her, all you-know-what would break loose in my family. What can I do? Help!
Thanks!
Brittney
expertplanner
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Dec 21, 2006, 2:45 PM
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She is just 17 so it really wasn't realistic to select her with the expectation that she would be able to perform MOH duties the same way a more mature and experienced woman would. And as far as paying for her own dress goes, that too should have been factored in. When she was selected, did she have a job? Can she pay for her own dress? Usually, wedding attendants do pay for their own wedding attire.
I think you should talk with your family, who seem to be driving your decision, and let them know how you feel. Wedding attendants should be selected based on who is closest to the couple. While it is nice to include family, it is not obligatory to do so. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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Dec 21, 2006, 3:39 PM
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Very well said. I couldn't agree more. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
MissBrittney
Dec 21, 2006, 3:50 PM
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Yes, she does have a job. Heck, she makes more than I do!
I guess the age thing would play a factor. It just annoys me that my family put such an enormous amount of pressure on me to have my sister as my MOH when she doesn't really care. I would like to just pick one of my friends, but here in the south, especially with my family, the parents do a lot of decision-making in the wedding.
*Sigh* I guess I'll just be draggin...er...I mean, taking my future husband to pick out colors of flowers and cakes and shoes
Forced to have sister as MOH = nightmare!
