I have a friend who keeps asking me to be a bridesmaid and I don't want to ask her.
The problem is a few years ago, for her wedding I was not asked to be her bridesmaid. She told me that the reason I was not asked is because "in the heat of the moment" she asked another couple to be in her wedding. She ended up kicking that couple out of the wedding but instead of asking me (as she told me I was supposed to be in that person's place), put someone else in her place "because the dress was way too big to get sized". Most of her bridesmaides who lived in town didn't even care enough to go to a dress fitting with her.
I'm really hurt by her decision to not have me in the wedding party and a little miffed by her expecting to me in mine. When I try reminding her that she didn't have me in her wedding she gives me the above excuses. That's not the only reason, she can sometimes be a negative person, and I don't want to deal with that in my wedding party.
How can I tell her I don't want to have her as a bridesmaid without hurting her feelings?
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Re: [Jeanie] Friend wants to be a bridesmaid
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Honesty is always the best policy but, if you think that total honesty may hurt her feelings then explain that you have your wedding party already selected and leave it at that. If you feel compelled to ask her to do something, ask her to do a reading or assign her guest book duty. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Friend wants to be a bridesmaid
