We are getting married in less than a month and a half and have come across a huge dilemma!
One of the groomsmen has had to travel overseas urgently so he is now unable to attend the wedding. The groom does not have anyone else in mind that he would like to replace him with and this means that the 4 bridesmaids are uneven with the 3 groomsmen which I really don't want. We have had the idea that we might be able to drop one of the bridesmaids but are not really sure considering the etiquette of this and how to do it so it won't hurt their feelings...
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Re: [karenandwarren] Getting rid of a bridesmaid
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Put yourself in the place of this bridesmaid (who you have invited to be a member of your bridal party seemingly because she is close to you) and think about how insulting it would be for you to be asked not to participate now that you've purchased the dress, participated in all the pre-wedding festivities, never mind the hurt that you'd feel to know just how unimportant you really are to the bridal couple. This would be like saying this woman was only asked to take up space. Clearly insulting!
Even if you did have another man to take the groomsman's place you shouldn't consider that option either for the same reason as above. Who wants to know that they were second choice?
Leave things as they are. The attendants from both sides do not have to be equal and one groomsman can escort two bridesmaids. Please don't choose superficial things over relationships and people. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I totally agree. Remember that when the day is over, and the photos are in...you are still left with the pre-marriage relationships, and family and friends who you will need to make amends with. It's not about the even photos - it's about those people who thought enough about you to support you on your big day. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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I couldn't agree more with all of the above. The sides don't have to be equal and we don't treat our friends as superfluous. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Getting rid of a bridesmaid
