I have been asked to be the matron of honor in two weddings this summer and I want to make sure I am fulfilling all my duties!
In Emily Post's wedding etiquette guide, she mentions (twice!) that the m.o.h. should spearhead an effort to give the bride a gift from the bridesmaids and collect money for said item. I am more than happy to do so, but no other etiquette websites (that I've found) make any mention of this duty. Is this an old tradition that has fallen by the wayside, or a custom to certain areas of the country - this will be a deep south wedding.
Thanks!
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Mar 24, 2006, 8:58 PM
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Re: [jsh626] Gift from bridesmaids to bride?
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Dear MOH,
This is an optional 'duty'. I believe she was just reminding you of it. It is definitely not something that you must do.
The bridesmaids may give the bride a joint gift or they can give an individual gift from each one. It is your (all of you) choice. It is just your 'duty' to ask the bridesmaids what is their choice. With everything all of you have to pay and do these days, please do not feel pressured to spend a lot of money on a gift. This, of course, is myopinion.
Gift from bridesmaids to bride?
