We are planning a wedding for august 2006, and already i want to throw in the towel. My bridal party is begining to look like a 3-ring circus?
We have 16 adults, 4 junior bridesmaids and a ring bearer.
Some ppl in ther wedding are there because of obligation, can't have his brother's childre, and not his sister's kids kind of thing, and to be honest I am miserable.
His best man is his brother, only because my sister is my matron. he doesn't want to have his brother, but feel obligated. i don't want 2 of the kids, nor their mother, but again we're obligated. I can only choose 4 of my friends that i have grown up with because there is not enough room, I havn't even broken it to my friends that i can't ask them.
I am ready to call it quits and just have the MOH and best man, and be miserable that way. This is just step one and i am miserable. Please help.
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Sep 29, 2005, 4:12 PM
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Dear Help,
It is unfortunate that you have already invited these people to join your bridal party because you really don't have to have any family if you don't want to. You may have felt obligated, but you really aren't. Plus, the amount of attendants is usually based on the formality of your wedding. You have quite a few.
Why not step away from the planning right now and take a breather. You are stuck with these people because you asked them. But, you don't have to think about it for a while. It just may work out for the best. Your sister is your MOH so she can speak for you. You won't have to interact with them all of the time.
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Have you considered eloping?
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suzanne517
Sep 30, 2005, 8:08 AM
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Actually, we havn't asked anyone yet, just my sister, and 1 of our close friends, this is just the list we have come up with.
it aggrevates me to no end that i am stuck with this, but i guess if there is anything that i can let go it would be this, i am sure there are rougher roads ahead with the planning!- thanks
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Sep 30, 2005, 9:16 AM
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If you have not officially asked any of these people yet then DON'T!
You're not obligated to have ANY of these people as attendants. If you feel obligated to give them a reason tell them that you are having a less formal wedding which requires less attendants. As for your fiance, he should choose the person he wants as his best man. Let him give his brother some other role like usher.
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Sep 30, 2005, 9:40 AM
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I completely agree. If you haven't asked, don't. The fewer people, the less formal. Plus, the fewer people to have to keep track of.
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