How Do I Tell My Friend That She's Not In My Wedding
Ok I need your help on this. I have been really stressed about this. Back when I was single I had just moved back home with my parents and I had no friends in our city because they were all away at school. I became very bored and started hanging out with a girl that I had gone to high school with. I never spoke to her in high school and she was the type of girl I would've never associated with. She was very wild, outspoken, n sorry to say a bit sleezy. She was a loyal friend to me and she would be there whenever I needed her, but I didn't agree with her lifestyle. Once I got together with my fiance I realized how much she was living her life in sin and didn't want to be surrounded with it. I since moved away and we don't really talk that much anymore, but when she does email me she always tells me that I'm her best friend and how much I mean to her. The thing is she is very outspoken and came straight out and told me that she better be in my wedding because I'm her best friend. I was very offended and just brushed her off. Frankly, I'm not asking her to be in my wedding because I don't want her to be and I think it was very rude for her to just invite herself to be in my wedding. I'm a very shy person and I never like to hurt anyones feelings, but I just don't know how to politely tell her that she's not going to be in it. Is there anyway to let her down easy without ruining our friendship?
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Jul 10, 2007, 8:57 AM
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Monique -
You'll have to get up the nerve to speak with her frankly. Tell her that you appreciate her loyalty but that you feel the two of you have grown apart. I understand that you don't want to hurt her feelings but, as you have indicated, you really haven't had a relationship with her for some time. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 10, 2007, 10:33 AM
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I agree that honesty would be best here. There is no guarantee that you will still have a relationship afterwards. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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