I have too many bridemaids ( my maid of honor and 4 bridemaids. I really don't talk a lot with two of my bridemaids and my maid of honor is about 20 hours away from me. I really can't afford the flowers and stuff for that many bridemaids, so I need to tell one of them that it may be better is she is not in my wedding. The question is: HOW???
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Re: [Bridedevil] How do I unask a bridemaid??
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You really should have considered all of this when you asked. It would be terribly rude and disappointing if you were to tell your friend she can no longer be a bridesmaid. And, if she had already begun to plan or put any deposits down she will be out that money.
It would be best not to ask anyone to step down. If possible, try to find ways to save money on youtrr wedding by cutting down here or there. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Re: [Bridedevil] How do I unask a bridemaid??
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I agree completely. This is something you should have thought of - to unask a bridesmaid is to basically take a good chance at ending the relationship. Is one of your friends that expendable to you?
If it's mostly the flowers, scale back the others (and your own) a little each, and you'll save almost enough to pay for hers. If it's accommodations, check with friends & family to see if there is a comfortable, appropriate way to house some of your bridal party in private homes. Cut back in another area or have someone work an extra holiday job (you, your fiance, a parent - be creative) a few hours a week...do whatever you would do to save a friendship, because that is what it comes down to. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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Re: [Bridedevil] How do I unask a bridemaid??
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I couldn't agree more. This would be like asking a friend to a party and then saying that she is no longer invited. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
How do I unask a bridemaid??
