How to explain why I'm not choosing you for a bridesmaid
Help! I have decided to have a small, 4 person wedding party, and am not including a friend who's wedding i am in in 2 months, who's fiance/husband will be in my wedding. I am not sure how to go about telling her why i'm not asking her without making her mad or hurting her feelings.
randysgirl
Dec 13, 2004, 4:48 PM
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The best thing to do is be honest with her. If she is your friend, she should understand the situation. However, instead of leaving her out of the wedding entirely, maybe you could give her an honor role, such as guest book attendant or let her hand out programs. Another option would be to let her read a passage during the ceremony. Best of Luck!
Etiquette Now
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Dec 13, 2004, 5:17 PM
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Dear How to explain,
I have to aggree with Randysgirl. Good advice. There maybe something that you can ask her to do. And, just because you are in her wedding doesn't really mean that she needs to be in yours.
Re: [lizrava] How to explain why I'm not choosing you for a bridesmaid
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Hi there,
It seems as though you're getting very good advice. 'we agree with randysgirl that 'honesty is the best policy' here.
There's lots of ways to make friends feel special, but one of the things we did was to write a special song for a bride to give to her friends at her wedding called "FRIENDS ARE QUIET ANGELS" and it's available in a lovely personalized version at www.topweddingsites.com in their music section. Click on the banner that says 'say it with a song'.
How to explain why I'm not choosing you for a bridesmaid
