How to tell maid of honor she's no longer in the wedding
My best friend was supposed to be my maid of honor for my wedding in October. Her children were supposed to be my flower girls. I had to find another flower girl because she was not going anywhere with purchasing the dresses (or even attempting to). Now it is almost too late to get her dress for the wedding. What should I do? I still have 2 other bridesmaids and my sister who is the Matron of Honor but really did not want to not have my "best friend" (who has also not helped with anything for the shower or bachelorette party...it has been taken over by one of my other bridesmaids since my sister lives out of the area) up there with me when I get married.
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Re: [mabuzzell] How to tell maid of honor she's no longer in the wedding
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Dear Mabuzzell,
I'm not sure what the real problem here is. Did she say that she wasn't going to purchase the dresses? There is still time to get them. I know brides who find the perfect dress and have it tailored within a week of their wedding, which is not the norm. Obviously I only know what you have said here. Perhaps there is more going on. But, I can't see what the problem is.
However, if you are ordering a particular dress and this needs to be purchased very soon, you would probably have to ask her if she intends to do it. If she does not, then you would have to ask her to step down. She may not be too happy that her children were replaced. So, this may be an issue.
By the way, the bridal shower and bachelorette parties are optional. If she doesn't want to host, she doesn't have to. She is really only required to attend. If she attends the bachelorette, she is required to pay like any other guest. If this was important to you, it would have been best to ask her if she wanted to participate before asking her to be an attendant. Of course as a bride it is never appropriate to request these parties or to demand them.
How to tell maid of honor she's no longer in the wedding
