I may not be able to fulfill all of the bridesmaid's duties
I was asked to be in a friend's wedding which will take place at the end of this year. I was very upfront with her that due to my current life circumstances, I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to commit to fulfilling the duties of a good bridesmaid (or attending all of the events). I told her that she may want to consider someone else. She said that anything I could do was fine with her and that she wanted me in her wedding anyway.
I have already been unable to make it to one bridesmaids' get-together and I feel terrible about it. She says she's not upset about it. Even so, I feel like I'm breaking the "bridesmaid's rules" and I wonder if I should step down before the dresses are ordered. The financial cost isn't a problem, it's attending all of the pre-wedding events that will be a problem. I don't want to be a source of stress to her during her wedding planning.
What's the proper thing to do in this situation? If I can't fulfill all of the duties should I step down (even if she says she's ok with me not being able to)? Maybe I'm worrying too much. I just don't want to be a bad friend.
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Feb 7, 2007, 6:10 PM
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Re: [maid07] I may not be able to fulfill all of the bridesmaid's duties
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Dear Maid,
You would have had to approve with all of the planning in order to be obligated to attend these parties. So, don't feel too badly especially when you have been so honest about not being able to attend.
Don't worry. Just make sure you can show up for rehearsal and the wedding.
I may not be able to fulfill all of the bridesmaid's duties
