I got engaged in April of 2007, and my wedding date is July 5th, 2009. My MOH has known of the wedding and the engagement from the start and has been supportive. However - she just got engaged last week. She asked me to be her MOH and I said yes. She told me she was thinking of having the wedding in Sept 2010. Yesterday she called me and said they dont want to wait and are thinking of having the wedding July 19th of this year! (In TX, and I live in CT.) One day after I get back from my honeymoon.
I know that I will not be her MOH if she decides to do this. I will not want to be stressed out on my honeymoon about her wedding. I want to enjoy my first few weeks of being married.
My question is - do I keep her as my MOH? Will she be able to focus on what I need from her and plan her own wedding? I do not want a phone call from her at the last minute saying she cant make it to my shower.
I am furious with her, and I can't believe how selfish she is being. How do I talk to her without sounding like the bitch I know I can be?
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edited by TWQadmin on Jan 24, 2009, 8:42 AM)
If this is a woman you cared enough about to ask her to be your maid of honor, then you really should be happy for her and assume that she will be able to fuilfill her duties, unless, of course, she has shown herself to be unreliable in the past.
I'm not sure that you can't still be in her wedding, unless you feel that it would be too stressful for you. But, when we care for people, typically we want to go all out to be there for them when they need us. She may have her own reasons for planning her wedding so close to yours. I would encourage the two of you to have a nice, calm discussion about this. No emails, though. It would be best done in person but i see that you live a distance. Do what you can - if you want to keep this person as your close friend. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I could not agree more. She is your friend and friends share their concerns. Talk to her now while she is in the thinking process. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
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