I love my MOH. We're been best friends for 15 years, and she seemed really excited to be in my wedding. So excited in fact that she has taken over. When I tired to show all the my bridesmaids the dresses that I was considering for them, she told me that she already had something picked out that she wanted and that she would not be wearing black with everyone else. I was a little offended that she took it upon herself to pick my bridesmaid dresses, but I offered to look at what she had found even though all the other bridesmaids loved the dresses that I picked out. Her choice was way over the budget that we had all agreed on and it was purple! I tried to politely let her know that I really wanted to go with one of my picks since everyone else had liked them, but she insisted that she will only wear her choice and she will not wear black. She has also taken it upon herself to plan the bridal shower and not allow anyone to help her, including my mother what wanted to co-hostess with her. She is really upsetting me, my mother, and the other bridesmaids. How do I politely let her know that she needs to take a step back and to remember that it is my wedding, not hers.
She's cetainly out of line insisting she wear her choice of dress. So, you can just let her know that it's non-negotiable and that you've already selected the bridesmaids' dresses for your wedding. You can go on to say that you hope she'll try it on, feel comfortable, blah, blah, blah, but there isn't a choice. I'm sure you can find a way to do this delicately enough to ensure you keep the relationship.
However, regarding the shower, your mom shouldn't have anything to do with the shower. If your friend would like to host a shower on her own, she can, as long as you're agreeable and that she doesn't expect anyone to chip in (unless other participate and agree, of course). If she offers to host, then she gets to choose the where's and when's, but you don't have to accept her generous offer to host.
I hope the two of you can work this out.
Good luck. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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MOH acting like a diva
