I just read the previous post stating that it is okay to have both a maid and matron of honor. That makes me feel so much better because I was having a very difficult time deciding who to choose and how to tell the other they were not my "special" attendent for the whole planning process. My question now, however, is how do I choose who is to help me get ready and do all the planning? Do I ask them both to help out equally? Maybe giving each a different task. Who plans the bridal shower? Who signs the marriage certificate? Since I do want to have both be part of the planning process, I would like to have set ideas of each role they play when I ask them so my Matron of Honor is not offeded that she is not going to be the only special attendent I have. I basically don't want to hurt her feelings by making her feel like she is not wanted or special. Please help me!! How do I tell her politely that she will be 1 of 2 important people to me.
Thanks, Bride who does not want to upset two best friends by leaving one out!
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Re: [kasdsu] Maid/Matron of Honor share duties
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Dear Caring Friend -
Just being asked to be a member of the bridal party is an honor so try not to worry too much about slighting anyone.
For most of the duties your friends can decide how and if they will split the responsibilities. For example, all pre-wedding parties are optional so the attendants can decide if and when a shower or bachelorette party will be hosted. You won't be a part of that decision.
The only time I can see that you will have to choose is signing as witnesses and order they process down the aisle. Those choices can be made arbitrarily, maybe by age or some other pre-requisite.
Enjoy the planning process, Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Maid/Matron of Honor share duties
